Leadership Is Not Only About Results
It’s About the Humanity We Choose to Bring Forward

AS SEEN ON

Last fall, on a quiet Sunday afternoon, I went to church and heard something that stayed with me.

The priest shared that when he walks down St. Catherine Street — one of Montreal’s busiest downtown streets — and sees people asking for help, he knows he cannot give to everyone. But what he can do is look each person in the eyes and smile.

Montreal, like most major cities, has a visible and growing unhoused community. The need is constant. And over time, many of us — often unconsciously — develop the habit of not seeing.

I have done it too.

What struck me that day was this simple truth:
People deserve to be seen.

Sometimes, a brief moment of I see you can nourish the soul, open the heart, and reconnect us with our shared humanity.

A few blocks later, life offered me a chance to live that insight.

A young woman approached me and asked, “Do you have some money for food?”

At first glance, she looked like many young adults. But her eyes told a different story — vulnerability, hunger, fear.

“What would you like to eat?” I asked.

She hesitated. “I’d really love some fruit.”

I smiled and invited her to come with me to the supermarket. She looked startled.
“Are you sure? They might not let me in.”

“You can wait outside if that feels more comfortable,” I said gently. Even then, I could sense her unease.

Inside, I chose fruit and a few additional essentials she might need. When I handed her the bag, she looked up at me with tears in her eyes and whispered, “Thank you so much.”

Her gratitude nearly brought me to tears.

I walked away realizing that while I had given her a few basic necessities, she had given me something far more powerful: a moment of connection, humanity, and heart.

What This Has to Do With Leadership

The coach in me wished I could sit with her and hear her story.
The human in me felt her potential — that spark we all carry when someone truly sees us.

And I found myself asking a question that has guided my work with leaders for years:

How can I do more?

Leadership is often discussed in terms of results, performance, influence, and outcomes. And yes — those matter. But leadership does not begin in the boardroom.

It begins much earlier.

It begins with how we see people.
How we respond under pressure.
How willing we are to stay open instead of turning away.

Leadership isn’t measured only by results — but by the humanity we choose to bring forward.

This is something I see repeatedly in my work with executives and senior leaders. Many are not lacking intelligence, competence, or ambition. What they are navigating is overload, desensitization, and the quiet cost of operating too long in survival mode.

When leaders slow down enough to reconnect with their own humanity, something shifts:

  • Decision-making becomes clearer
  • Relationships become more grounded
  • Presence replaces reactivity
  • Impact becomes sustainable

This is what it means to lead with heart and strategy.

When Leadership Moves Beyond the Individual

Just a few days after that encounter, a client mentioned that Share the Warmth — an organization I had admired for years — was looking for new board members.

Their mission is simple and profound:
Strengthening communities through food security, support, and empowerment.

After expressing my interest, my client put in a good word for me. I am deeply honored to share that I am now officially a Board Member of Share the Warmth.

This experience reminded me of something I teach daily:

Leadership is not what we say we value.
It is how we live those values — especially when no one is watching.

Leadership often begins with a smile.
With a question.
With a single act of connection.

When we choose to see instead of looking away — and when we have done the inner work to see with possibility rather than despair or overwhelm — we lead with heart.

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An Invitation to Lead With Impact

As I continue coaching executives and leadership teams to lead with heart + strategy, I am reminded again and again:

Real leadership is seeing people — truly seeing them — and helping them rise.

If this story resonates with you, I invite you to take that leadership beyond reflection and into action.

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Because leadership does not end with influence.
It begins with how we choose to care.

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