We’ve all been in situations where we want to end a relationship, whether it’s with a partner, a parent, a relative, a boss, a coworker, an ex-partner. Many of us feel we don’t have a choice, that nothing can be done – that there is no way out. We feel stuck.
I was on Breakfast Television talking about how to move forward by letting go of relationships that no longer serve us. I created the 5-Day LET GO of Negative Relationships Challenge to empower people to learn that they do have a choice and that they can begin today and improve their life. I invite you to join the 5-Day Challenge right now and implement my strategies below.
I also discuss my book “I Attract What I Am” – Transforming Failure Into An Orgasmically Joyful Life & Business, which recently became an Amazon International Best Seller.
Watch the Breakfast Television segment here:
The 5-Day LET GO of Negative Relationships Challenge
Day 1 – Gain clarity on what truly is a negative relationship, versus a relationship you need to change
Be honest with yourself. Is there something you need to change or is this person a spoke in my wheel?
Take a step back and ask: what is truly going on?
Is the person in question really negative, or is there something going on within me that I need to work on? Everything starts with you. We are mirrors. Let’s face it, we all have things going on in our lives. Is there anything you need to change? Anything you improve? Are you acting from your best self? Start by noticing what you can change.
A negative relationship is characterized as one that intentionally brings you down, either consciously or unconsciously. It’s a relationship that does not support and encourage you towards the path you know is best for you. Some people just don’t want to see you grow; they would prefer you stay in the same place.
Day 2 – Get curious (take the high road)
Remember that when people discourage you or put you down, the words they use are merely a reflection of their own insecurities. Remember…we are mirrors. Don’t take it personally because it is their story, not yours. Instead of taking it personally, feeling hurt or angry… get curious.
Why are they behaving this way? What can I learn from this? It’s hard work, but these are the steps we must take to fully understand the quality of our relationships. It’s easy to defer to anger, sadness or frustration, but to evoke real change, we must challenge ourselves to think from a higher perspective. We must challenge ourselves from our usual reaction-mode to curiosity.
For example, perhaps there is a work colleague giving you a hard time because his boss is giving him a hard time and he is projecting it on you. Just remember we are all human, we are trying our best with what we have. Don’t feed hate with hate. Maybe this person is going through a difficult time and is in need of support. If you are curious about the situation, you will become aware of new truths and realities.
Day 3 – Decide who you must LET GO and when
Eliminate what no longer serves you. What does not work.
When you realize that a person is truly negative, meaning they have no intention of changing or supporting you towards your highest path, then you need to let them go.
Make the conscious choice to end the relationship and set a deadline to do so. Deadlines ensure that we do what we must do in a timely way – and where negative relationships and toxic people are are concerned, the sooner the better.
Day 4 – Your approach – how to LET GO
It’s not easy to eliminate a negative relationship; if it was easy we would be living in a world without conflict and war.
You may feel a lot of guilt, and that’s normal. Just remember, life is short and you want to create the life you truly want. If people are draining you, you will not be able to move towards your goals.
The approach you use is all about what feels best for you.
Keep in mind: “Do not correct a fool, or he will hate you. Correct a wise man and he will appreciate you.”
If you have had conversations with someone and they still just don’t ‘get it’, if they have continually sapped your energy, are toxic or manipulative, you can choose to no longer react or respond to them. The more conversations you have with them, the more they will try to manipulate you further.
To those you feel deserve a conversation, be brave, speak your truth and let them know why you will no longer be in touch with them.
Day 5 – Celebrate and point the finger back towards you
It takes courage to become aware of and let go of the relationships that are harmful to us. It is a huge step forward in self-respect when you remove what is weighing you down. Celebrate! You’re making the decisions you must make to help you move forward.
Your next step is to ensure you don’t repeat old patterns in the cycle of negative relationships. In order to attract better people, the right people for you, you must continuously work on yourself. Where can I improve? What can I do differently?
Now that you feel the freedom from some of these relationships, you have opened the door for a higher quality of people and new and exciting opportunities will flow to you with the space you’ve created! The choice is always yours to make. Choose wisely and invite the people into your life who will encourage you towards your highest path.
Find out more on how to cut negative relationships and to create the life you truly want despite where you are or what you have been through.
My book I Attract What I Am – Transforming Failures Into An Orgasmically Joyful Life and Business. I write about my failures and how I successfully transformed my own life. I share tips and strategies on how I did it so that you can use it to create the life you truly want.
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Wishing you an orgasmically joyful life and business!
Melissa Dawn is a Certified Life and Business Coach, Motivational Speaker and Founder of CEO of Your Life. She is the Amazon international bestselling author of I Attract What I Am: Transform Failure into an Orgasmically Joyful Life and Business.
Melissa left behind a successful career as an award-winning V.P. in marketing to be of greater service by inspiring and teaching professionals and business owners the key strategies needed to identify their purpose and discover their unique value. This transformational process helps to crystalize their vision to create a life and business that is a true reflection of who they are. Melissa illuminates and guides her clients’ journey toward making choices and decisions that are heart-centered by listening to their inner guidance system so that the chosen paths are much more fulfilling.
By engaging in and implementing the step-by-step strategies of Melissa Dawn’s signature coaching programs, you too can become the CEO of your personal and professional life with confidence and success.